My training, from the time I was in college, has been to deal with my inner life as well as the outer world. As a therapist in an institute I was responsible to be authentic on all levels at all times. You can't be a good shrink and be superficial or in denial. Doesn't work.
I made a conscious decision to just live that way, up front and authentic, to the best of my ability all the time. When I am with extremely superficial people I get quieter. I step back, kind of retreat inside. It's fine if others choose to ignore aspects of life or obstacles and issues. It's not for me to say or judge.
When I let people get close to me I do choose people who have depth and strength of character.
But, there are sometimes I've had to work closely with people who don't share my values at all. They are the people who close their eyes to any discomfort whatsoever. You know who they are. They call you crazy when you name your emotions. I try to get in and get out of those situations.
Then there are times people just lie about who they are and I fall for it. They lie. I never expect people to be lying because I don't do it. And they gossip and I don't see it...because I don't do it.
I express what I really feel. I live who I really am. It isn’t always pretty. I also try to see the best in people. Generally the people who don’t live this way, I find out later, mock me. They get nasty.
Now, the truth is, when I really contemplate it, I did know I shouldn't have trusted those folks. That still, small voice knew and I rode roughshod over it. I thought I could handle it. I thought they weren't so bad.
I'm not going to stop being the real me. I truly don't care if some people get uncomfortable when I am honest. There are lots of people in the world. They can go hang out with other people.
I get uncomfortable when I find myself not listening to my gut, my authentic self. There isn't anything more important than that, no matter how inconvenient it may seem at times, it's always the best path for my journey.