It’s that time of year. For some people this is the best time of year, for others, not so much. No matter where you fall on this continuum, it’s a safe bet that how you celebrated the holidays as a child is impacting how you view the holiday season.
Often people who had beautiful holiday seasons as children no longer have that sense of magic and long for it. Or people who had horrible childhood memories of the holidays dread the season because they bring up those memories.
We can create new traditions and transform our experience if we can just unhook our childhood memories from our present experiences. It isn’t such an easy thing to do, though it sounds so simple.
The key is to recognize how your history is impacting you. Once you really honor your history you have the opportunity to let it go. If you idealize or demonize those times, you might turn away from seeing them for what they really are.
The perfect holiday magic from childhood springs from the mind of a child. As an adult, you can only pass that on to others. It is never experienced in its fullness when you are an adult.
The difficulty of holiday seasons that consistently presented disappointment was the experience you had as a child. It will never be that bad again if you decide to change it for you and those around you.
We create our own joy and our own magic, and most importantly, we give that joy to others. Offering joyousness to others is our best chance as adults to feel fullness at the holidays. To do that, we have to really be in the present and not trying to relive the past.